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Blogging the real me to make you (and me) feel better.

While I was going through my feed reader last week I had a revelation (thanks to a post I'll mention later) that could possibly warrant the changing of my tag line on this very blog. Anyone who has been blogging for a long time knows that when our lives change often times so does the focus of our blogs. I know many bloggers who have been through this or are currently going through this right now (like her, her, her - awe hell the list could go on forever so I can't possibly list all of you!). This very blog has been through some of it's own transformations in the 4 years I have been writing here. Back in the day the whole point of starting this blog was for marketing my...

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Remember when…

Remember when I outlined all N's job uncertainty in this post back on May 2008? Back then we still had no idea where his job search would take us and we were pretty worried that we would end up stuck with the status quo if no better offers came along. We were barely making end meet, were financially frustrated, itching to start a family, had no chance of buying a home and were ready for a little more job security. Too bad my lady doctor said I was not fertile because of my low weight and N's job told him they really valued him but could not increase his salary from here on out. That was 5 months ago...

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Thoughts on struggle and peaceful garden photos

To me the hardest thing is to watch a loved one go through trying times and to not be able to help them. My brother is dealing with some heavy stuff right now. He had a child with a girlfriend and they have just come to terms with the idea that they can't be together as a couple. His daughter and now ex-girlfriend just left his house to be on their own. He is not on his daughters birth certificate because his pregnant girlfriend was a minor when she gave birth. Ugh, it is a whole slew of drama that I don't want to bore you with. Basically sitting by and watching him make his choices and watching him struggle is killing me. As outsiders to the situation we can see...

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On fear and it's impact on life.

I spend my days trying to teach kids that those fears we harbor inside ourselves can actually keep us from achieving, doing or becoming what we want most. They inhibit success and can trap us. Nothing is worse than not knowing what could have been, that is why you just need to reach for your dreams and get over being afraid to fail. I am not sure exactly what shaped my thoughts on fear. I know when my mom felt trapped in marriages I picked up on it but I think there must have been something more that made me so set on moving beyond fear. Fear is supposed to help protect us from injury right? Walking down a dark alley makes you fearful because it is a bad situation and you...

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What can you do about an emotionally draining person?

Do you notice feeling drained, trampled or just worn out after an encounter with an acquaintance or loved one? Maybe this person only wants to have interactions with you when they need support or maybe they tend to unload on you all the time. How do you distinguish between someone going through a "rough patch" in life and someone who is just an emotional drain on you all the time? I know someone who never asks how we are doing and insists on dominating the conversations and dwelling on all the "woe is me" crap. When the conversation shifts from all the pity me stuff it becomes very superficial. It feels like this person doesn't care to know who we truly are, is not even thinking about how we are feeling and...

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Persistence often pays off..

This is a lesson that is very apparent in my file right now. I try to teach my students that perseverance and persistence will lead you to great things. Often times we fell the urge to give up right before we are about to experience success. Those who succeed are often those who kept trying after all the others had quit. This idea is also proving to be true with the ole job search N has embarked upon. Yesterday after putting his resume tape online and applying to all the places he could he got a bite! Tri-Cities, Washington has scheduled a phone interview for Saturday with him. Yay. So, if you feel like your efforts are pointless and that you should just throw in the towel and give up remember that...

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The job search begins!

The resume tape is just a bout done, there are about 4 months left on his contract and the job search is under way! Job searching can be a tedious and stressful time for anyone. You sift through the possibilities, talk yourself out of the ones you feel are unachievable and then you pursue the ones you feel best suited for. Eventually you end up with another less than fulfilling job somewhere else but is it the job for you? The worst thing you can do is sell yourself short when job searching. This is something N and I learned first hand a few years back. It's natural to not want to feel rejected so your tendency is to not be willing to put yourself out there when you aren't sure you...

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We all end up where we are meant to be eventually.

I just read a great blog post about U-turns and life. The author articulately compared life is with getting lost while driving. Oh, Dang! I just closed the tab for the blog I was wanting to link to. The blogger just left me a comment so now I have the url again, yay! Follow the link and read the post for yourself! Eventually we all end up where we are meant to be, the route and surroundings may not be preferable at the time but it gets us to where we are supposed to be sooner or later. This is perfectly obvious in my life right now. Today marks the day when my partner reached a goal that he set out for over 5 years ago. Today marks his first day...

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I have spring fever! Is winter over yet?

Well, we are moved in to our new place and it's a bit like Christmas here every day! We are discovering all kinds of "surprises" each day as the snow melts. Some of the "surprises" are pleasant because they are signs that spring is around the corner, others a just odd. Yesterday we determined a smashed up coffee maker was rearing it's head in the back yard. It was apparently thrown there before the snow started falling, got burred and is now frozen in place till the ice/ snow thaws. Another discovery is the box of files and games on our front porch area. It too was buried under snow and was undetectable till things started thawing. The more pleasant discoveries include the three rose bushes and some emerging bulbs that...

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Enjoy the holidays- family members and all!

I am going to be honest, the holidays make me very anxious. I find that old issues and grudges resurface during this time and they make the holidays almost impossible to enjoy. Visiting certain family members means enduring blatant insults, being judged, openly criticized and manipulated. Certain people will go on and on about all the problems and issues they have without regard for anyone else. In general the entire encounter is draining and often extremely emotionally abusive. I do not enjoy being in such an unhealthy situation and the dread often robs me of the enjoyment of the holidays. Dealing with these people and issues is not an easy task. All I want is acceptance and tolerance from those certain family members during these gatherings. If everyone could just be on...

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Write for a blog carnival or read what others have written.

Occasionally I will post a compilation of several articles that touch on motivational living or on living more simply and naturally. I enjoy reading what others have written on these topics and want to share the articles with you also. You can read these compilation articles by selecting one of the two the categories that most interests you. I will summarize the interesting article and link to them so that you may visit them if you wish. | motivational living | living more simply and naturally | If you are writer that feels your article would be beneficial to my readers you can submit your on topic article by visiting the appropriate submission page for the particular category. If you are looking to draw readers to your own site that is...

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Think outside the box!!

Unhappiness is a sign that something is out of whack, it is usually something you have control over but tendencies will lead you to blame others. This weekend personal discoveries took place at my house. What about you? Have you ever been upset about something that you thought you could not control? Have you felt that you did not have the power to make things turn out differently? Everyone has heard the phrase “you are either part of the problem or part of the solution”.. Which role do you play and how? Thinking outside the box has helped me to see issues from different angles, it has also allowed me to grow on a personal and professional level. In what ways have you moved beyond the box? ...

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Learning to attract what you want….

“The THOUGHTS we choose to think are the tools we use to paint the canvas of our lives.” - Louise Hay So much of life is a self fulfilling prophecy. We can very easily become products of our environment if we allow it. This is a very difficult concept for people to understand and it is even harder for those that have had trauma in their lives. It is so easy to believe that bad things are bound to happen to you especially when that is all you have experienced up to this point. but think about it, you were expecting bad things to happen right? Then they did and you proved yourself right which in turn solidified your belief in the notion that bad things are bound to happen to you...

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"You must be the change you wish to see in the world."

I took a moment to reflect upon that statement, it truly is an empowering and insightful statement! What displeases you about our society, world, town etc? How are you acting and reacting differentially to improve the situation around you? Essentially we must reflect our visions in order to make them a reality. That means leading by example, actions speak louder than words and all that good stuff. If we truly desire positive change we must be the pioneers. Today I find myself surrounded with chaos and turmoil. Not in my own personal life but in the lives of my coworkers and friends. All the conflict and drama seems to be resulting from the lack of consideration for other view points and experiences. People tend to only see things from their own perspective,...

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Destiny and the journey of life- everything happens for a reason.

Control is an illusion that we all struggle with. Do you believe you have control over your life? What does it mean to control your life? Can you control death and various other life changing events? Can you control the direction your life is headed? Your answers to these questions make you the person you are. When life-changing events take place many of us begin to analyze our lives and the steps we have taken to get to where we are. People ask "why me?" or "what could I have done differentially?". When we loose someone close to us we wonder why and we often do not understand the loss. Some will become angry or resentful others will learn and grow from the experience. I strongly believe that we are presented with...

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