Resisting the unknown or uncertain is very common. People naturally want to feel safe and secure. We like to know what we are about to encounter because we know exactly what we will get out of it. We are comforted by the consistency even if we are not happy with the results.
This is why so many people continue to live lives that they do not enjoy. Often times the fear of change itself is enough to keep us mindlessly repeating the same actions and choices while hoping for different result. We desperately want things to be better but we are too trapped or scared to try something different.
Overcoming fear of change is something I have struggled with for quite sometime. Many things were in chaos throughout my childhood and this left me longing for security and consistency in my adult life. I was always resisting change and I was unhappy because I was not allowing myself to experience new things that may be more fulfilling.
The bottom line is that change is not always a bad thing. Change usually leads me to new and better experiences. Each time you master something and become comfortable a new and more challenging opportunity comes along. At first glance it can seem like more work and struggle and this is why we resist. In actuality the sweet is not as sweet without the bitter, the same goes with challenge and achievement. Accomplishments are not accomplishments without something to overcome. Every change brings struggle but it will also bring new and better experiences.
I believe life is simply a number of experiences that lead to other experiences and so on. If I did not move to a new town, I would not have worked with certain people who recommended me to other people, who offered me a better job where I got more job experience. Every event and situation leads to the next and if you resist the opportunities, you will loose the chance to experience new things, to move forward and to become a better, happier person.
Changing the way you view change will help you overcome the fear of change itself.
Next time you find yourself agonizing about the unknown try to shift your thoughts to the positive side of things. What if I get a better job or meet someone new? What if I can buy a house? This type of thinking will give you hope and will make your dreadful change more exciting and welcome. Once you get through the change it will empower you and make you more comfortable with the unknown, thus making the next change more bearable.
So much of life is perception, if you expect bad things that is all you will notice. If you are hopeful and optimistic you will see the good in things and good things will happen to you.
Change your thinking and you will change your life!