The way a person chooses to approach a situation can dictate the response that person gets in return.
I teach dance at a high school. I have student leaders who help me teach the students. This is a lesson they are learning first hand.
Have you ever been approached by someone who is just obviously in a bad mood?? I come into contact with these types of people everyday in my hotel job. Have you ever noticed that you respond differently to these people?? Do you find yourself reacting in a defensive way because of the way they came at you?? I catch myself doing this. It is actually a very natural response for us. People don’t like being attacked or jumped all over so they naturally react in a way that protects and defends themselves.
The way we choose to approach someone does affect the way that person will respond to us. If we want to prove a point, get and answer or have somebody do something for us it is crucial that we find the right way to approach that person if we have any chance of getting what we want. Finding the “right way” to approach something is all about the perception of the person you are approaching.
Many different factors play a role in how we are perceived. How will they view your attitude?? Do you appear angry or annoyed?? What is your body language saying?? Are you speaking loudly and in anger or are you calm and soft spoken??
When you are in control of your body language, tone of voice and attitude you will become better at approaching different people in different situations and people will respond better to you.
The next time you have to approach someone about something ask yourself the following questions: Do I feel irritated or angry? Do I have certain opinions about this person that make me approach them a certain way? Am I holding a grudge or do I feel angry about something they have done?? Am I threatened by them?? How would I feel if I were in their position right now?? How would I want to be approached??
When you can place yourself in others shoes you will be able to better understand their perception of you and therefore find better ways to approach them.