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I am in labor now!

Yes, I’m blogging in labor.

nSwbv9a9While I’m not live streaming the birth this time (hospital birth remember?), I know everyone is waiting to hear about the labor developments so I’ll update you while I am here at home laboring before we head to the hospital.

Labor began this morning (39 wks & 3 days pregnant) as I was getting the girls on track for heading off to school. I was having back to back, painful contractions and back pain. My water hasn’t broken.

I even remarked to my husband “gosh, am I in labor or what?!” at one point while prepping their breakfast but with the many contraction spurts that have gone nowhere since before Thanksgiving I was just over paying attention to things I guess.

So, Nathan went off to work and I continued to get the girls ready for school while drinking my coffee and waking up. By the time I needed to drive Everly to school I knew things weren’t quite like my previous, lame contraction spurts. Anyway, I drove Everly to school with 6-7 min spaced contractions, cam back home with Adalyn and got a bunch of our crap ready for the hospital. As I write this things are about 4-5 min apart.

Baby brother is still cooking?! 38 week pregnancy updates and thoughts on induction.

In the last weeks of pregnancy women often find themselves simply DONE with the process and ready to meet their baby. Even crunchy ones that are aware of all the reasons baby should keep cooking! Pregnancy often leaves your mind and body conflicting on many things… meeting that sweet baby ASAP is one of those things.

I’m the first to admit to feeling DONE with pregnancy towards the end. For starters, I’ve never been a glowing pregnant woman that loves being pregnant. Pregnancy is a pain in the butt among other things, it is hard and inconvenient. Sure It’s also quite amazing but that doesn’t make it less of a pain, for me.

Of course I’d love to have the baby now if he was ready to come and the thought of waiting till 42 weeks to have the baby is a hellish thought.

On severe weather and babies being born…

It is looking to be a super weird day!

BOTH girls slept in our room last night. They  were so restless & anxious they couldn’t fall asleep, even after some warm magnesium “tea” (aka Natural Calm) and some time to unwind in their room. Eventually we let them come to our room where they didn’t sleep much. They weren’t playing or anything, just laying there awake… tossing and turning. his is super uncharacteristic of them. We didn’t sleep much either and I was even anxious and wide awake for some unknown reason.

Spontaneous delivery is related to barometric pressure: Many studies have shown that changes in the weather affect health. In the field of obstetrics and gynecology, several events have been empirically shown to be related to the weather. Labor pain is controlled by the autonomic nervous system and various hormones, and is expected to be influenced by the weather and environmental changes. Several studies have been conducted on the relationship between delivery and barometric pressure, which shows constant changes with changes in weather, but there is no generally accepted view on this.” Read the study performed on this here.

“Crunchy hate” and flaming, how do you deal during the holidays?

Each time around the holiday season a number of people in my crunchy circle (what the hell is “crunchy” Talina?) find themselves upset when trying to mesh with non-crunchy loved ones that are often downright rude and generally not accommodating.

hey-girl-breastfeeding-is-sexy-thumbYear after year I hear about…

  • People that insist on hosting a holiday celebrations but whom refuse to acknowledge an attending family member’s food allergy or food preference.
  • People that downright un-invite you to events because of your crunchy preferences or food requests.
  • People that accost you at events for parenting choices.
  • People that just ridicule you behind your back.
  • People having to prepare their own meals to take along to events where eating choices, needs or food allergies aren’t considered by the host.
  • Children being slipped no-no foods, drinks or toys behind parents backs just to make the parents angry.
  • Children being snubbed because of their parents crunchy choices about foods or toys.

While I don’t usually have to deal with meshing our own crunchy beliefs with family members around the holidays (since we live so far away from all of them and we celebrate by ourselves) but I do get my share of online “crunchy hating” or “crunchy flaming” so I can relate…

The pregnancy home stretch is here! 36 weeks pregnant and counting…

We had our first chance of dusting snow last night/ this morning out here in southern Indiana. The girls are bummed there isn’t any to play in or build a snowman with this morning but the event is significant because it means winter temperatures are now upon us. I am excited for winter because it means our little bundle is going to be here soon… Medically speaking, he is “due” December 9th, 2013. So possibly just under a month away.

Although, I’m pretty big right now which could mean he is pretty big… and if he is big and strong he could decide to come early like his big and strong sister did. Our delivering doctor has warned that I shouldn’t have him on Thanksgiving (doc has out of town plans). Thanksgiving would put me at 38 weeks which is medically considered the “full term” minimum gestation. Guess I wont be having to worry about fighting a provider about induction at 38 weeks. LOL!

Sisters practice for baby brother’s arrival… Not much time is left.

Things have been pretty non-stop around here lately, I’m guessing it’s just going to continue until our newest family member has joined us in a few short weeks.

Everly and Adalyn are practicing for the arrival of their baby brother and for the excitement of Christmas. Some days they are bundling baby dolls (that they usually never play with) in blankets. Other days they are wrapping toys in blankets and pretending they are gifts to open.  Everly just grilled me on baby care techniques like carrying, holding and soothing. “Can we swing baby brother like this?” she asks while holding a doll by it’s arms…

Adalyn is always asking me about baby brother in my belly, she likes to try listening to him with a stethoscope and she hugs my belly and likes to lift my shirt to check it out often. She also always asks if he’s coming out now, then she does her baby having squat and makes a serious face. LOL. We keep telling her it’s not quite time yet but it will be soon.

We just had our “birth plan negotiations” with our delivering doctor last week and I’m happy to report, things seem to be smooth sailing for this “Homebirth in the hospital” that we are planning. The doctor isn’t giving us a hard time about our unconventional wishes and plans and I’m feeling really good about the upcoming birth. By the way, we wont be live streaming the birth this time but we’ll probably have a birth video to share afterwards… if we have enough hands to get a recording of it.

Can you believe Thanksgiving is fast approaching? We’ve been doing some Thanksgiving related home schooling these days and I can’t believe how darn fast time is passing!

Counting down to winter & our baby boy… Just a few weeks left!?!

Here in Southern Indiana, we are officially experiencing the Fall season. I’ve even had to kick on the heater a few times! The garden growth and harvesting has died down lots, as have our hen’s egg production. This year we had two odd volunteer pumpkin plants that sprang up and just flourished all season with zero care from us. They’ve managed to survive all 7 chickens and now they have produced about 6+ very pretty pumpkins that are just about ready for picking. They are even growing over the back fence and up on our grape arbor, not at all rambling on the ground like traditional pumpkin growing.

You know, we’ve never had organic pumpkin growing success so this is very exciting for us. We are guessing the volunteer pumpkins arrived via our chicken/ bunny’s poop. Last season we fed them several mushy decorative pumpkins we’d bought from other farms. The seeds seem to have made it though and found a perfect place to grow. How cool is that?

A look at the wedding though another photographer’s eyes…

Bridal Potty Time

We were lucky enough to have two different wedding photographers at the wedding, each with a varied style. They both did a great job as I’m sure you’ll agree.

In my previous wedding photos post I talked a bit about how lame I feel in posed photos and how lame I end up looking. I blame my general dislike for posed photos on my short preteen modeling career.

We never do the portrait studio family photo thing (well, last year was the exception), we much prefer to take our own photos as the “in the moment” shots are usually of the most value to us in the long run… but with a growing family of young, squirmy kids, letting someone else take the photos is honestly less stress and headache.

So, to make a long story short, we were open to formal photography for the wedding because it’s one of those things you just do right? We weren’t so sure about how well the photos would turn out, considering the subjects (LOL)… but MAN were we pleasantly surprised!

Eric Cook Photography seriously blew us away with their ability to take formal, staged photos of us where we didn’t look all awkward and overly staged. Even the unstaged photos (like the bathroom one you see to the left) look super fabulous.

A look at the wedding though one of our photographer’s eyes…

For the wedding we knew we needed to secure as many photos of the event as we could, but we didn’t have the budget for thousands of dollars for a wedding photographer, plus we weren’t really looking for someone to provide us with prints of the photos from the wedding… So we hunted around for people looking to launch their photography business (on craigslist!), who had photography skills and a unique take on wedding pictures.

Nathan has a funny story about the craigslist ads we placed, several stories actually. He should blog them… But to sum it up, we got a bunch of headaches and hate mail resulting from the ad and we also found many talented and passionate candidates.

 

The exciting news we are ready to share. It’s a …

It’s true we have some exciting news to share. It was officially announced to our close circle of loved ones our wedding. Actually, we’ve been dropping hints here and there and even dropped a major hint at the actual wedding… You already know that we had our belated wedding this month right? If not, you can read about it and see photos here.

Anyway, we kept our exciting news super secret for almost 5 months until we hinted at it with our custom crafted wedding cake topper.

We had OUR Wedding!

It’s official, we had our long awaited wedding! After a five year engagement and adding two daughters to our family, we finally found the time and money to make it happen.

Now that it’s over, I can’t really detect any major difference between pre-wedding and post wedding life… but we did it and have the photos to prove it so I feel better having done it.

Two peas in a pod & what we’ve learned about behavior and gluten

Everly and Adalyn are growing so darn fast. Everly turns four this weekend and Adalyn will be two in two months. They are still just blowing our minds each day, in various ways.

Everly is a great big sister but she really does have her annoyed big sister moments too. Man, do I remember feeling annoyed with younger siblings often as a kid. So I can sympathise with Everly.

Adalyn just follows her big sis arround, gladly plays the sister-slave role when Everly requests to be catered to.

I had to intervene when Everly convinced Adalyn to try wiping her butt one day.

Did that really just happen to me?


You know those days where everything is basically a WTF moment? It’s been a really long time since we’ve had a day filled with those moments… So I feel I have to share it.

It all started out with a trek out for errands, as we were leaving our street we found a golf club in a bush near the stop sign on our block. Our neighbor was surprised by a full bag of golf clubs on his vehicle earlier in the week, presumably stolen.

Of course as soon as we hit the road this uncontrollable hunger hits me.

Life transitions are underway and we enjoy the fruits of our labor.


I wanted to write about all the exciting stuff that is in the near future for us, things like wedding dresses, possible acreage and growing families… but today I really need to tell you this.

Adalyn went to be for the first time last night, without me. In all her almost 2 years of life mommy has put her to sleep by breastfeeding but circumstances have changed and she’s now much more eager to do big girl things like reading a big kid story with her big sister and daddy. So, when asked if she wanted to nurse, because she was already firmly planted in her sister’s bed with a bedtime story- she told me no and meant it.

Murphy’s Law and Such…

There is so much going on right now, some I can share… some I cannot.

You already know, our very belated wedding is nearing, fast. Remember how we posponed it while pregnant with Everly? When it comes to important life stuff…

 “Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong”.

Except, for us the “going wrong” isn’t really all that terrible, just inoppotune type stuff like infertility clearing up right after engagement.

Reuse and repurposing: Our goal- Throwing less into dumps

There are many ways to recycle, reuse and conserve from day to day. You just have to look at things differently. As I become more and more earth friendly I discover new ways to reporpose, reuse and recycle.
For me, a focus on repourposing and reuse has been what we’ve continued to expand on. Can you believe this family of 4 only fills a regular treash can with dump-bound trash about every 2-3 weeks?
We’ve dramatically reduced the about of stuff that is dump-bound by:
  1. Composting kitchen scraps or giving it to our rabbits & chickens.
  2. Hauling our own recycling to a recycling center once a month.
  3. Basing our buying choices partly on product packaging.
  4. Buying less throwaway stuff, spending less money.
  5. Reusing things like mad.

Since it’s earth day, I’d like to share some of what we’ve got going on here at home where reuse is concerned and I’d love for you to share what you having going too. The more ideas we compile the “greener” we’ll all be right?